When a Girl Rejects You
When a guy is interested in a girl, he usually makes a move and declares his interest or proposes marriage with the hope that something beautiful comes out of it. However, many times this proposal gets rejected. Also, there are times when people are in a relationship and the girl wakes up one day and decides that their relationship is not worth continuing. Most people find the rejection devastating and find it hard to properly manage. That’s why on BrojidBrother this week, I want to share with you how to handle situations like this.
I’d like you to know that when a girl rejects you, it could mean so many things; but one thing it surely indicates is that love is not always mutual. That is, it’s not all the time that the person you love equally loves you and that is natural. It should remind you or wake you up to that reality of life that you can be dying for someone; yet the person no even send you.
I understand that you have seen what you perceive to be green light; but it’s either that you judged wrongly or she changed her mind after showing the green light. I mean, so much could have happened between the time she indicated interest in you or sent you signals and when you made advances to her and she turned down your manifesto.
When a girl rejects you, it could be for many reasons. But one thing I want you to bear in mind is that love is not always mutual. Therefore the person you like seriously may not even give a damn about you. Don’t think low of yourself as a result. Don’t equally get angry with the lady; she may have nothing against you; but just can’t connect with you. If you feel you are responsible for the rejection, make amends before going back or asking the next person to marry you.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that something is wrong with you; it simply means that the person doesn’t want you. In fact, it could mean that the fellow was too blind to see the substance you are made of or that you just need to upgrade. If hers is a case of blindness to substance that matter, please let her be. However, if it’s you that needs to upgrade, do all that you can to upgrade. You’ll be happy you did!
I believe love should be mutual and not imposed or forced on anybody. You don’t have to coerce or manipulate anyone to love you; it should start and grow naturally. If the girl says she has no feelings for your or chooses not to be yours, please let her be and move on. Bros, believe me, it’s demeaning to even beg to be loved. You deserve to get mutual, natural and true love.
Your job as a man in the traditional African society is to declare your interest to the lady but it is her duty to decide whether you will start a relationship or not. Aside declaration of your interest, another duty you owe to her is to explain yourself so well that she won’t have a doubt about who you really are. But beg a girl to love me, it’s my personal taboo! (To learn more on why I don’t believe you should EVER beg a girl to love you, please read my post, Me Beg for Love? Say Wetin Happen?)
I know that love is not always mutual and what we sometimes interpret as green light by a girl could just be a reflection of her niceness. That’s why I don’t want you to go to a lady with high expectations. No matter how sure you are, please have it at the back of your mind that she can say no. Prepare your mind to damn the consequences of her unexpected answer even before you go to meet her. Convince yourself that despite that she seems to be the most beautiful creature or most suitable, there is a chance of finding an even better person than she is if she says no. Remind yourself that God delights in every detail of your life and perfects all that concerns you and if Ogechi is the one, she will have no option than to say yes. This helps you not to have a heart attack or feel depressed like the brothers that have gone ahead of us in this matter.
A thousand and one girls may reject you; but there is one somewhere who you will love and she will also love you like mad. You just need to identify her and make the necessarily move. Don’t get stuck with the one or many that turned your manifesto down. Like Pastor Bankie humorously says, “If you are persecuted in a city (one girl), move to another.” Although it was Jesus’ instructions to His disciples, it makes sense in our lives today especially in this context.
My point?
When a girl rejects you, it could be for many reasons. But one thing I want you to bear in mind is that love is not always mutual. Therefore the person you like seriously may not even give a damn about you. Don’t think low of yourself as a result. Don’t equally get angry with the lady; she may have nothing against you; but just can’t connect with you. If you feel you are responsible for the rejection, make amends before going back or asking the next person to marry you.
PS: Often times, when a guy’s proposal for love is rejected or he is dumped, he fails to handle it properly. That’s why next week on BrojidBrothers, I will show you how to handle the rejection and prepare yourself to declare your interest to any woman.
