I want to talk to you about husband material. If you can, please spare me some minutes to that on this week’s edition on FamilySquare.

Every girl wants to marry the right husband. You know very well that I also want you to marry right. However, I find it worrisome that in your criteria for a husband, you have top on your list insignificant matters, without any serious emphasis on what truly matters.

When I expected you to talk about the strength of a husband to be character, you are busy talking about a talk, dark rich and handsome, as these makes a faithful husband, trainer and role model for your children.


Please build your criteria for a husband material on what truly matters in life and the petty issues will take care of themselves!

Take your focus away from the man that can bring out a chair for you in a restaurant; any idiot who wants to have sex with you can do it with all pleasure.

Nothing is wrong with having a man that compliment you and call you all the good name; but don’t be deceived into thinking he truly loves you and is a husband material. A manipulator does that effortlessly to get you.

Don’t write a good guy off because he doesn’t call you trice a day, call you sweet names and compliant your every move.

He may never have learnt to do them; teach him. If you can’t teach him directly, give him a book to read it, a talk to listen to or a link yo an article to read.

In fact, he may have so much on his hands that he doesn’t remember to do them. Have patience with him, while you tty to teach him.

I implore you to set your mind on the matters that are truly important in a husband material before you measure one for yourself.

A man that truly loves you will express it! His mode of expression of love may not be in tandem with Ramson Noah, Van Vickr or Nora Roberts characters. But if you look closely, you will see for sure that he loves you.

Please accept his love as he shows it. He has a life to live; not your fantasies built from romance novels and movies.

A man that truly fears God will treat you in a godly way. Opening car door to save you from stress is the least of what he will do for you.

He will provide you gadgets and counsel to make life easy for you. He will treat you as he will love to be treated.

My point?

Draw up your criteria of a husband material on things that truly matter; not the ephemeral things emphasized in romance novels and Indian movies. Go for what matters most and the little matters will be taken care of by default!


Ifeanyi Dinwoke

Ifeanyi Dinwoke

Ifeanyichukwu 'Brojid' Dinwoke is a Media Strategist, Web Developer & Book Publisher. At Brojid World, he creates blog, podcast, and book that inspire you for peak performance in life and work. He is madly in love with Chidinma Eberechukwu (@chidinmadinwoke) who agreed to be the wife of his youth!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.