SO, YOU WANT TO BE IN LOVE?

As little children, we have people we feel attracted to. We have what blogger Chika Ugwuodo calls Childhood crush. I think it’s cool and normal almost everybody had it. But as you grow up, you want to fall in love with someone. You want to have someone that loves, calls, treasures and dream about you all the time. Even me, I had such desire around the age of 15. But before you go ahead to make the move for it and accept the offer of being in love, let me share some truths with you.

At your age, as teenager, you are at your school age – secondary school or early higher education, you need all the concentration and attention to make the most of your academics.  One thing that is certain to happen in relationships s hurts. And it can be distracting. At your age, you are not emotionally balanced to manage heart break or motional hurt from your lover so that you don’t get distracted from your education.

I have seen many girls who got ruined because they felled in love too early. They lost focus in life. Some even became shadow of themselves after some abortions or giving birth to unplanned child without adequate care. And I am sure that’s not what you want to be your case.

Bros, don’t think I am talking about girls alone. Many boys have lost direction for life due to immature love affair. They felled in love too early and so spent the time they should have invested in their academics thinking about how to please girls or make money to give her. In fact, there are many who have been involved in all kinds of crime because they want to impress a girl they want to be in love with.

There is so much you can become if you concentrate on your academics and self development. Please focus on your future.

One of the encouragements I have got on waiting for the right time to have sex came from my Igbo Teacher in SS1. One day, she told us to calm down and wait for the right time. She went further to tell us that we will have the right to keep our wives at home any day we want. Although she was talking about premarital sex which is not what I mean by being in love, I got encouraged not to be in love that early.

By the way, why do you want to be in love?

Because your classmates are falling in love? You don’t have to emulate them. You are not going the same place in life. To get to that great future God has destined for you, you must do the right thing at the right time.

Because you feel like?

You can’t just do anything you feel like. I think it’s animals that do just thing they feel like and you are not one. So, control that feeling.

I had to convince myself to leave girls and focus on my academics because if I focus on them and fail, good and educated girls will not agree to marry me when I grow up. My friend, let me tell you the truth: it’s better to wait till the right time to be in love – you have attained majority.

Don’t risk losing all the great potentials God has loaded in you because you want to do the right thing at the wrong time.

My point today? Don’t fall in love with anybody now. As a teenager at lower education level, it’s too early! For now, fall in love with your future and academics and you will be prepared to be in love properly.

I pray for you. May God strengthen you to do the right thing in Jesus name amen.