Lest Your konji Ruins You…
Sexual desire is not your making; neither is it a result of Darwin’s claim of evolution. God Almighty in His infinite wisdom and love for our pleasure and design for procreation built sexual organ in us with the drive for sex. So, don’t feel terrible, guilty or worried if you have sexual desire!
I believe that sex is good and pleasurable; if it’s not so, you and I won’t desire it and we won’t have people who throw caution to the wind just to have sex at the wrong time or with the wrong person.
However, just like every of his creation, He has a plan and right time for their use. That appropriate time is in marriage and only with your spouse. When we fail to wait till that time or confine ourselves to sex with our spouse only, we expose ourselves to numerous dangers.
Many youths have wrongly given expression to their God given drive for sex and have reaped only regrettable and painful consequences as a result. I don’t desire to have their kind of experience and that’s why; while I work on controlling my sexual desire, I wish you do the same.
You see, as good and pleasurable sex is, the pains and dangers associated with uncontrolled sexual desire are so much that the pleasure pales when placed side by side with the pains and shame associated with it.
The most obvious danger of unbridled sexual desire is unwanted pregnancy. When it happens, it’s usually the girl that suffers it the most since she will be distracted from school or even lose the chance of higher education. Those who try to cover the reality of their pregnancy out of wedlock risk death from abortion or succeed at murder.
I could write volumes if I choose to dwell on the pains of unwanted pregnancy; but suffice is to say that it has shattered the dreams and goals of many people so much that they become shadows of themselves as well as embarrassment to their parents.
Many young ladies with promising future have lost the beauty that their future holds because, they became pregnant and got disorientated due to the shame and discrimination that comes with it that they couldn’t even continue with their lives. Many of them have settled for second rate life; despite God’s potential in them to do exploits.
One of the most common means of spreading HIV/AIDS is sex and people who fail to bridle their sexual desire predisposes themselves to sex from all kinds of people. The consequence is that they contract the disease which until today is a sure death sentence unless by divine intervention. In effect, they terminate their lives prematurely in their quest for unguarded pleasure.
In the past, there were massive campaign to sensitize people about HIV/AIDS but all that has stopped or died down drastically. As a result, many people erroneously think HIV/AIDS is no longer real. Don’t be deceived… AIDS is till real; it’s just that the carriers who are sensible enough to maintain the right nutrition and get their anti retroviral drugs regularly look like healthy members of the society!
I am sure that there are people who contracted the disease despite all their plans for ‘safe sex’. That’s why instead of collecting condoms they share or sticking to one sex partner you are not married to, I prefer to shut up my raging sexual desires. (You can learn how I control my sexual desire for free in my book, Shut Up Konji)
Although being married may not guarantee having faithful partner; but one sure thing is that having a boyfriend or girlfriend whom you have sex with is almost a sure way of exposing yourself to danger of contracting sexually transmitted diseases. This is because even if you don’t have multiple partners, your partner may have other partners. People can lie!
Some people have gotten so addicted to sex that they helplessly fall into the traps set for them; even when the signs are so obvious that they are exposing themselves to dangers. That’s why even before the trap gets set for you, start working on controlling your sexual desire. Gain control over it and ensure you are you not bound by it.
In fact, if you are a man, most lose women actually think you are helpless to their seduction; so work extra hard to ensure you are not at the mercy of any Satan’s deputy!
Don’t give the devil a chance. They will come with all kinds of seduction; you can’t stop them. But you can acquire immunity to their seduction and that’s why I share with you in the post, Immunity to Her Seduction.
There are men who have lost their favour and goodwill because of their unbridled sexual desires which pushed them to either make inordinate sexual advances to their bosses, boss’ spouse or forced the opposite sex into sex. I am sure you don’t want that to be your case; that’s why I implore you to SHUT OF YOUR KONJI instead of excusing away your need to control it.
The most damaging of all the dangers of unbridled sexual desire is that fact that it’s a sin against God! Fornication and adultery are still sins and their damaging effect is in the fact that they interfere with God. I have heard some people preach that how we live doesn’t matter because Christ has paid for our redemption. Please don’t believe them; they are confused!
Christ died on the cross that we may have dominion over sin! We are called upon to live worthy of our repentance!
In fact, Apostle Paul who was a custodian of grace and salvation teaching, was inspired by God to write this: “Don’t be immoral in matters of sex. That is a sin against your own body in a way that no other sin is. You surely know that your body is a temple where the Holy Spirit lives. The Spirit is in you and is a gift from God. You are no longer your own. God paid a great price for you. So use your body to honor God. ” (1Cor 6: 15-18 CEV)
I have read and heard those that have gone ahead of us teach passionately that sexual immorality kills more that most sins! The Great teacher of the word, Pastor Bankie who wrote in his book, Great Faith can be Yours, “See, the truth is that sexual immorality leaks the spirit and few things kill spiritual ability like it. If you doubt me, remember David and Solomon; in both lives the only problems they had with the Lord stemmed from leakage of spiritual power from desire for women.”
If you look around you, you will see one or two persons that were ruined due to their unbridled sexual desires and I am sure that’s not want you want for yourself.
Please understand that unbridled sexual desire is not bad because it could lead to unwanted pregnancy, deadly diseases and loss of goodwill; they are just of the proof that it’s really bad. That’s why you and I can’t crucify those that become pregnant from sexual immorality simply because we are never caught or unwanted pregnancy didn’t expose us.
Danger of unbridled sexual desire is not about being caught; it’s about the damage to you do to yourself, your future and children.