Handling Perpetual Offenders
On the 29th October, 2017 edition of my Radio Programme,Moment of Blessing, aired on Radio Nigeria Voice 96.7FM, a listener calledin and talked about her husband that offends her every time and apologizes each time. She asked me what she should do in the situation. I attempted answering her in less than 2 minutes I had left at the tail end of the programme. As I left the studio, I reflected on her question and realized that she is not the only one wanting an answer to the same question. Many of us have such questions bugging us every day. Although, our case may not be that of a perpetually offending husband, we most certainly have people that offend us nearly all the time and therefore need to learn how to cope with them. That’s why in this series of posts, I want to share with you how to handle perpetual offenders.
In our relationships, we sometimes encounter people who will offend us almost as a habit. That is, they consistently do things that you find offensive and if you fail to handle them properly, your relationship with them grows sour and may eventually crash with its attendant consequences.
As people who have chosen to obey God in all that we do, we understand that in all our dealings with people, we have no option than to forgive whoever offends us. That is, if you pay attention to the teachings of our Lord Jesus Christ, you will find that the 77 times7 a day forgiveness limit implicitly means that you have to perpetually forgive the perpetual offender!
We have no option than to forgive totally. However, there is more we can do aside forgiving the perpetual offender to help us move forward in life. Aside offering them total forgiveness, we can make them better and help them cease from their offensive lifestyle.
No matter how the perpetual offender is entrenched in his offensive ways, he is still redeemable and can be helped. He can still change just like any other human being with character flaws. You just need to find out how to cope with him or her and help overcome the lifestyle that offends you.
In this series of posts, my desire is that you will gain insight and understand what to do in coping with and handling any perpetual offender you find in your life.